I have been married 36 years today if I don't count the divorce, the 3 year hiatus and 1 year of living together before we re-married. Now, that is quite a story.
Lake Okeechobee Sunset by Cole Scott
The lake is surrounded by a man made dike, Hoover Dike, begun in 1929 completed 1971.
It protects the surrounding communities from floods during hurricane season. The
dike takes up the lower part of the shoot which explains the perfectly straight horizon.
My husband is in Florida right now, exploring the Everglades and the Panhandle. He left New Year's Day on a road trip with our oldest son. They drove to Naples where our second son lives. They spent a week in the warm sun, helping #2 move into a new apt not fifty feet from the beach. He had quality time with both boys who, when it came time to say goodbye, were very emotional. #1 flew back to Salt Lake City for his last semester at the U and my husband left Naples the following day.
Thirty six years of marriage is certainly no small feat. It has taken every bit of will power we have to make it work. Ours is not the idyllic chirping of soul mates. It is the rocky road of ups, downs, angry moments, leave takings and time spent apart held together ultimately by two children we cherish more than life. We made the decision long ago to make it work and we have.
Romantic? Sometimes very. Our happiest moments together are on vacation, just the two of us, on the road, exploring. Our greatest accomplishments are those two boys with whom we are "well pleased."
Why am I not with my husband right now? He needed to get away and I needed him to be away. He needed to bond with his sons, spend memorable time together before the inevitable changes in all our lives become permanent.
At leave taking, our younger son told his father "I don't think I'll be moving home again, Dad."
That's a powerful statement and, no matter you know it's coming, it shakes you. It is one of those moments.
As my husband wends his way towards Apalachicola, I have to admit, it's a pretty good marriage. When you get to the point where you can give your partner the freedom to explore, enjoy and discover things with or without you, no strings attached, that's love with an open hand.
Happy Anniversary honey!