Friday, June 12, 2009
Elder Care Part 3
The saga continues with my father in law's condition and care.
Yesterday, he was moved into a nursing home. It has been two weeks since the massive stroke that has left the right side of his body paralyzed and 25% of his brain affected.
My husband had to go to County Court to obtain a guardianship over his dad. Without a Power of Attorney, Medical POA, directive or living will, someone has to take legal control. My husband feels very strange to suddenly be responsible for all decisions affecting his father. I empathize completely. How sad the day you become responsible for your parent.
We are lucky though. When this first happened, there were no beds in the closest nursing home. We were told the nearest one open was an hour away. But one opened up and it's a pretty nice place. They keep the grounds and interior clean, attractive. The rooms are spacious. You do have to watch out for the old ladies in wheel chairs who drive with their feet. They can knock you over before you know it. It may be a form of bump cars or visitor bingo for all I know. Actually, I had a good feeling about it. I saw another gent I knew. He is a professional musician, a pianist, quite good. He was playing for the crowd. He's there too for rehab. His wife is hopeful.