It may be Father's Day but this is a post about my younger son.
A year ago exactly, I wrote a post about his moving back to our family home. I read it to my husband this morning and he remarked how much our son has grown and changed this past year. And he has. His life has taken turns he did not expect and is not necessarily happy with but he's learning from his mistakes. He had bombed out of his Freshman semester the year before, finding it difficult to live away from home and unable to concentrate on his studies. He left after one semester and moved to Utah to live with his brother who attends college at the "U". He stayed six months then moved back to be near his friends.
Last Fall he tried college again. This time he was accepted to UNH, New Hampshire's most prestigious state school. He got in by writing an eloquent letter to Admissions about his first attempt, his lack of readiness and his willingness to return to academia because he knew what was important in life. He lasted one semester. He was evicted from his apartment for non-compliance, among other things. He partied a lot. He studied very little. Still and all, his grades were not bad but he couldn't stay focused.
He came home again and went to work in a restaurant full time, moving into a rental with two roommates. He went to the doctor and asked for ADD medicine. He saved enough money to buy a car. He's working now to save money to move to Arizona, enroll in a community college and live with a friend. He is, once again, living at home.
This time, however, I'm enjoying his company. He's keeping his room cleaner, he's helping out more around the house. He's coming home at a more reasonable hour and staying quiet when he does so as not to awaken me. He is well-mannered, polite and gracious.
His current goal is to start a non profit company of tee shirts with original designs by children in Ghana. Profits would go to buy art supplies for the kids. This embodies the essence of my son: a kind and gentle soul, a gifted artist who needs only to find his direction and move towards it.